Thursday, August 22, 2013

Be Who You Are ALL the Time

Day 80 of 100 days of Blogging

I saw this photo and inspiration on Ginny Robertson's Facebook Page this morning:

Many years ago, I was in the middle of a messy divorce. There were so many lies being told about me, including that I didn't want to be a mother and that I was crazy for wanting to divorce my husband. Some of the "proof" was when I moved out of my house without my children (I was setting up a household in a rented house) and I learned how to read tarot cards and wore quartz crystal earrings. Another "proof" of my insanity.

In my distress, I shared this with my supervisor at work. He listened and then one day calmly told me:

Be the person you are and let that shine through in everything you do. It doesn't matter what other people tell your children about you now. Keep being the person you are and one day, they will see and know the truth.

From that day forward, I lived as authentically as I possibly could with the highest integrity. Not perfection. I live life raw and real. I strive for authenticity.

It hasn't always been easy. It can be hard to hear the lies and I haven't always handled it with the highest integrity.

When I slip off and down into a space I regret, then as quickly as possible I make amends, move forward, and do better the next time.

Twenty-five years later, I have a built a real relationship with my adult daughters. We love each other. We see each other. We agree and disagree and continue to evolve our relationship.

Best advice I ever received. Thank you Jim Onaitis.

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